Hi Anita,

Thanks for your reply. I left a bit out as my post got so lengthy haha.

I have definitely considered the micro managing aspect and have been working on it, but still have difficulty in how to proceed now.

There have been instances of him planning something with me, only to blow me off to hang out with someone else or make other plans without telling me, leaving me waiting for him.

With this last time, he asked me to go shopping with him, only to keep putting it off or snapping at me when I would ask the plan.

There was a particular time when he told me he would meet me at a specific time, only to show up hours later. He lied and said he got caught up at work, then later admitted that he lied and was actually spending time with a guy he was seeing.

I feel like a lot of times, he will often put me us both in situations that will cause us to react negatively to, only to only blame me and have an outburst against me.

Once there’s an issue and he’s upset, he’ll begin to pick apart my personality and say cruel things to me, then ignore me for an unspecified amount of time, only to begin speaking to me again like nothing has ever happened.

(This leads back to him exhibiting symptoms of bipolar disorder.)

Often, every problem we have is a result of something I’ve done to “cause” him to react in the way that he did, he never takes accountability for his actions.