Dear lookingtothestars:

I find myself criticizing others for the same things I suffered from or still do. For example I had great trouble asserting myself in the past. Still working on it. Yet, when I see a person who has trouble asserting himself, I feel annoyed.

I hate to see in another what I don’t like about myself. And it seems that this phenomenon is very common.

So every time I feel annoyed with someone lack of assertiveness, or any other trait that I dislike in myself, I turn the figurative finger I am pointing at the other person, and direct it at myself, saying to myself: I don’t like behavior X in myself, and it is important for me to practice behavior Y instead.

What do you think?

anita