Dear Vany:

Your frustration has been heard. Unfortunately, not by the boss and co workers. I hope that there are ways for you to assert yourself with them. Decide what you are not willing to do (the tasks others are paid for, especially bonuses) and when blamed by a co worker tell her or him: You are responsible for this mistake; you made this mistake!

I can’t think of a skill more important in one’s private and professional life than being assertive. Some people wait to be appreciated at work but often enough there is nobody there to do the appreciating. You do your best and no credit, no reward, no raises. At the same time, people get comfortable with you doing more and take advantage of you doing more.

So you take charge and say: this is what I am willing to do. This is not my job, this is your job. If you want me to do this, then I will need to get compensated for it. Don’t wait for others to deliver justice to you, you have to fight for it. On top of doing a good job, you have to fight to be paid for it and to be respected in the work place.

Is my input here of any value to you?

anita