Dear sona:

Achieving independence from psychiatric drugs is a very, very good thing. I see he taught you skills to regulate intense emotions, such as meditation as well as interpersonal skills that help you function better at work.

On the other hand he should have discussed with you the topic of your attachment to him. I don’t understand why he only listened. Your attachment to him is something he should be extremely aware of as it must have been a big part of his training, attending to this attachment. No wonder you feel uncomfortable about feeling so attached to him- you are alone with this attachment, not validated, not told it is natural… in this important aspect, your therapy is lacking.

I would bring it up to him… again, and this time tell him you need his input. I wouldn’t proceed in therapy with him unless he attends to your attachment of him significantly.

Some therapists say that they know therapy is no longer needed when the client/ patient develops an intimate, satisfactory relationship outside therapy. They think of therapy as a Healing Relationship that can end when the patient has a new healing relationship outside therapy.

Please post again, especially if you do take my advice in the next session.

anita