Each one is at a different stage in their life/evolution and so its best to take another’s opinion with a pinch of salt – not blame them/yourself for being/not being better. Also, like Inky said, sometimes communities could attract extremists – my guess is maybe these people just want to vent or maybe feel accepted by the community although it comes across as otherwise. That’s how I feel but who knows..

Also, if we can find like minded friends/groups with similar goals and friends who can help us become better then it works out to be really wonderful.