Dear Maritza:

I am glad it is your cup of tea too, so we can have tea together! Absolutely glad you are here!

Regarding the Relationship Resume idea, maybe there is something to it in this regard: you wrote that you are a hopeless romantic, and that you believe you have a soulmate out there. You also wrote that this man was a mismatch. This is making me think:

this man was not simply a mismatch. He had serious problems that he didn’t want help with, not professionally and not in the context of a relationship with you (being “auto sufficient”)

In a Relationship Resume, a resume only for your use at this point (nothing put together for the reading by a future man), you may want to indicate this very thing: a future man to be considered must not be an “auto sufficient”- he will have problems, as all humans do, but he must be motivated to share those and work on them with you as you do the same with him, so you help each other.

This way you learn something specific and when you meet a man who is … auto sufficient (not really, of course), you will not be a hopeless romantic, but a realistic romantic. Through a Relationship Resume you can get a better and better idea of what your soulmate will talk and act like, so when you detect him, you will identify him as a potential soul mate (to get to know better and evaluate through a period of time)….

Looking forward to your writings here and anywhere else on this forum.

anita