Anita: You asked: “So you see, women also can not follow through. When we criticize another, best we look at ourselves as well: do we do what we disapprove in another?” In regard to dating, I always follow through. I don’t give men false hope, say grandiose things, and then disappear. So while I appreciate your effort to help me self-reflect, your question doesn’t pertain to how I behave with others while dating. If I’m not interested in someone but they’re still interested in me, I make my intentions to not move forward in a clear, but direct and kind way.

Sandstorm: I do make an effort to make my intentions clear that I’m not looking for a casual relationship or hook-up. Thank you for taking the time to write back to me and for the reminder that online dating does time and patience.