Dear annema:

I agree that you shouldn’t put your children through this. It is painful, as they know, and as you know (!) to be expecting something and it not coming true.

I bet you are in pain about this. Learn from the experience, encourage your children to talk about their feelings about this man, their hopes and dreams that didn’t materialize. Children are so resilient IF they have a parent to truly listen to them, validate their feelings, give words to what they feel, keep a conversation going, being supportive and comforting.

Please post again with new developments.

anita