Hi dogbat,

I know I’m late to the party here, but a few suggestions:

1. When your MIL says something racist or unkind, tell her “You are actually turning me AWAY from Christianity when you do/say that”. She will double check herself!!

2. If she goes on and on (and on) about “Praaaiiissse JAY-zuz!” again say, “You are actually turning me OFF from Christianity when you do that”. If she is Evangelical she will STOP and PAUSE and THINK. Tell her Less is More with you. You are more likely to accept Jesus/God the quieter people are about Them. LOL

3. If she says “God” and/or “Jesus” more than once in her visit with you say gently, “I can only handle God/Jesus in small doses”

4. Alternately, you can Ignore. Let her talk herself out. The awkward silence after her religious/racist diatribe will speak volumes. Don’t feed the beast! Don’t give that kind of talk any attention. Don’t “reward” her with positivity or negativity.

5. Or, Use the Broken Record Technique. For each racist comment say, “You’re getting the reputation of a racist in town, this is a bad habit, I would stop.” And only that.

OK, Good Luck!

Inky

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