I agree about a mediator. When id left and gone back to the uk I had written a contract to protect the kids, just basic cops renting contract stating our items could not be sold, he could not arranges move that affected my children without written consent.

I also wanted to do marriage mediating, not necessarily to stay together but to set boundaries. He often stone walked me if I said something that was inconvenient to him. He doesn’t want to because of money. He doesn’t feel the same desperation. Or need to protect the children that I do