Dear bigglasses:

I hope you read my two posts above (this being the third)- we may have posted at the same time and you missed the second?

In your response to me, I am still not clear and I need to have clarity on this: are you saying that you have been incapable to not mistreat your children verbally? Do you believe it is out of your control?

When you did shame and reject your children last time, did you see their eyes, especially the older child, the one who is visibly already damaged (oversensitive, you called it)- did you look in his eyes when you shamed him- and did you go on shaming him as his pain filled his eyes and heart, damaging him further?

anita