Yes Anita I agree with you.

1. I look for approval as I felt I made a mistake with this relationship. I wasted 6 years with him and it took a very long time for me to find my self again. So I thought might as well let parents decide. Also I am very scared that i will make the wrong choice. My parents marriage was not great they used to fight a lot. I remember thinking that I never want to be in a marriage like theirs.

2. Yes I often think that if I did marry him we wouldn’t have had a happy marriage as his parents would influence a lot. And I will be miserable

before I started the relationship with him I was very creative and loved reading books, listen to music and spend time with friends. the 6 years with him were very closed. I fell out with most friends and didn’t do anything else other than spend time with him. We saw each other almost everyday. Everything was based on him , and getting him to study and getting him up to speed with his work. after the breakup I found my self again, started reading, and I achieved a lot which i wouldn’t have done if i had married him. So i do know that things have turned good for me because I took a different turn. But why is it so hard to find the one who would be a perfect match for me?