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Hi arguseyed
I’m kind of in a similar boat right now, my friend decided to report my behavior (psychological not illegal) to guidance and then I got in trouble. We talked afterward; I wasn’t angry with her then, but now, she refuses to talk, avoids every place I am, she might be taking away my friends (we r from the same group) and I’m struggling to accept that she is gone. All the intimate moments we had, we will never have again. Was it one sided? I hope not, but a lot of evidence suggests otherwise. And, unfortunately, I don’t think my resentment for her is bad. It might be a form of self-care because every time I think of my anger with her, I feel a little better. It isn’t my fault she decided to stop being my friend; It wasn’t me who forced her to take my friends and to avoid wherever I am. At the same time, i hope my resentment won’t go too far, because it was her abandoning me that forced me to stand on my two feet and accept my issues. It also gives me the chance to find better friends, ones who won’t make snarky comments of no longer being my friend, one who won’t avoid me and put on a face in front of mutual friends. Also, thank you for giving me the opportunity to come out with this story. I’m not a good writer, so I haven’t completely processed this well within my head.