Dear Ravi:

Her sister words were … how shall I put it, bull*&$. I usually don’t use such language but I can’t find a more appropriate word. The logic in her words is not there and it is so foolish. She accused you of selfishly doing something when the feelings you developed were not even intentional, not your choice, they just happened. Then she said she did not expect it from you: she should learn to expect people to FEEL, doesn’t she feel what she feels? Her accusations go as far as you “stabbing her in the back”- for crying out loud!

You can feel, Ravi, like a molester or rapist because of the foolish talk of that sister. I can make a false accusation of you right here, right now: Ravi, you are a murderer! I you going to feel like a murderer just because I accused you of that?

And I disagree with you on: “If I had not treated her so badly…she may not have been so harsh”- the change, in her mind and in her family’s collective mind, from sister/brother to a brother turned lustful sexual deviant/sister is the issue. I don’t think she would have tried to understand the situation, oh no. The threat of her family rejecting her is most powerful and the collective family mind is dominant.

You are very persistent, I know. As I said maybe in the future, as a husband material, you can get through. And maybe if there is a crisis situation and her family disintegrates. Maybe.

I wrote before that I won’t discuss her, but there you had the communication with the sister. If you have more communication with the sister where she says something different, a bit wiser, let me know then. Otherwise, you can spare me from her foolish talk and I highly recommend you spare yourself of it too.

Take care and thank you for wishing me the same.

anita