Dear confusedandsuspicious:

I am surprised your psychiatrist said your P may be having an affair when in your earliest post you wrote that she thinks he is true to you…? But she can’t know anyway. And obsessed you are, confused, suspicious and obsessed. Any calming technique can help calm that going round-and-round with the same thought and checking: thinking and checking are two of the hallmarks of OCD. Checking his activities is a form of compulsion that follows the obsession (OCD after all stands for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). You may want to visit a forum on OCD?

anita