Dear Janine:

Your mother rejected you, attacked you with accusations again and again and again until you withdrew from her, stopped feeling loving feelings for her. When something or someone hurts us again and again, we withdraw, and that is what you did.

Because she accused you of being evil so many times, because you were the child and she was the mother, you believed her. In reality, you were born good and you are good. Reality is she wrongly accuses you of ..doing this to your father and whatever she accuses you of. Reality is you are being mistreated by her (and by your father).

You did nothing wrong to your mother or your father. They did something- lots of things- wrong to you.

Hope you move out soon and maybe have little to no contact with your mother, at least.

Post again, please.

anita