Dear confusedandsuspicious,

If you want peace of mind, don’t find fault with others but find fault rather with yourself. Learn to make the whole world your own. No one is a stranger my dear, the whole world is your own”

Love is a potent factor in smoothening human relationships. Love allows growth and does not judge on strays incidents. Love is the first step to overcome fault finding.

Your mind is restless right now. Some things in your past are still picking you, some aspects of your life feel dull – introspection would help you identify what is missing.

Ask yourself if you truly love your husband and have faith in him. If both aren’t there in a relationship, it will break down. You will have to manage these tendencies in your thoughts to suspect him – when you feel suspicious, ask yourself these questions –

Does P love me?
Does he care for the kids?
Has he ever harmed me?
Has he ever intentionally hurt me?
Is my relationship with P like that with my parents?

We may go to docters, people for guidance but ultimately we have all the answers within us and the power to find peace. It’s a matter of reconnecting truly with love and not suspicion.