Dear grimsy:

From your share on this thread, it seems to me that he did nothing wrong, that he was honest with you from the very beginning when you told him how you felt about it. It seems to me that he liked it that you felt loving feelings for him but he didn’t know how that can be played out such long distance. I am figuring he needs an in person girlfriend, one he can be physically present with. But he definitely liked that you liked him.

So far during this online communication with him you fell hopelessly in love with him, feeling very needy of him to love you back. The moment he wrote “miss you”- I think you wanted more and right away. As if “miss you” wasn’t enough and when he didn’t deliver more, you got angry and you “Told him I will end my contact with him + some inappropriate dramatic thoughts about my feelings.”

When you told him that you will end contact with him, it was not you running away from pain only. You also tried to hurt him, to hurt his feelings, because you felt like he hurt you first.

You felt that he hurt you by not saying more than “miss you” by not taking those two words and running with it to a bigger confession of love.

All through the time you fell hopelessly in love with him, your loving feelings for him were conditional on him feeling love back for you. If he doesn’t- punishment is to come, the threat of ending all contact

Do you agree so far? If not, correct me.

anita