Hi Chris,

To be honest, I don’t know anything about online dating.

The title of your topic drew my attention, because that is the same way i have felt a lot of times throughout my life.
You say you are probably boring. Is that how you think about yourself? I recognise that, I tend to tell myself the whole time that I am boring (and a lot of other negative things which are even much worse than this), but the thing is, the more you are telling yourself that you are boring, the more you will believe it, and find less things to say, because you have already defined yourself as boring.
You might be a more calm person, who tends not to express people, and you might be a very nice person, but that is maybe less obvious in online dating, where the first impression maybe depends on exciting lines? I don’t know why that should be a problem that lies with you, maybe it is just hard to find somebody to connect with in such a way? Maybe you need to be more patient?

I am replying to your thread because i also find myself boring, and i also, for a long time, only had my work and my colleagues to chat with. And that is not an ideal sitaution, because at the end of the day, they are colleagues, not friends. Maybe if you have a nice workplace and a more friendly atmosphere, you can become more like friends, but i personally want to be careful with that, i myself became way too attached with my colleagues, and it felt unhealthy to have them as my only means of social contact.
I’m actually just realising that over the past few days. Now i want to make a priority of finding ways to meet people outside of work, finding some nice hobbies, things that i enjoy, that interest me, where i can meet people outside of work and enjoy talking to them. I don’t know if i will make friends there. But it might give me more things to talk about, not only my work, and to develop myself. And i think, it might make me stronger, because i have more networks than just work, and the outside-work networks are more likely to be relaxed and about fun or interests.
I am writing this in the I-form because i find it hard to give advice, to tell you ‘maybe you could try this’. But that is my question, do you think to find some activities outside of your work, might be helpful? Maybe to meet friends, maybe to be happier and to see yourself less as boring? Or maybe to take it less personal if girls on tinder ignore you? They might still ignore you, but the need for making connections on there might be less because you have some more nice people around you?
I might be making it sound easier and nicer than it is. I am in a similar predicament at the moment (not exactly the same, because i don’t do online dating, but i have also be putting way too much weight on certain persons, and the wished relation with them which didn’t happen, so i think that’s similar as yours), and this is the way that i am looking at at the moment, to hope to make my situation better.