Dear kl292:

If your parents have been good to you, good enough parents, and your guilt is about not having expressed positive appreciation of them by not giving them those t shirts, why don’t you go shopping and buy a few t shirts, for your mother and your father, wrap them in lovely gift paper, write a sincere thank you note to each, included in the gift and hand each their gift. You can remind them of that package years ago and that you are making it up to them for not giving them those t shirts four years ago. Tell them you love them very much, look each in the eyes and tell each how much you love them.

As you do all that, be aware that you are replacing that memory with this new experience, the shopping, packaging, note writing and presentation of these gifts in the present. You are replacing that experience with this experience.

anita