Dear Chau:

You wrote above: “I know deep down I still want to connect with my ex,but no matter what I shouldnt because I haven’t fully recovered.” This indicates to me that you didn’t give up on her. I think you should. I think once you accept the fact that it is and should be over, then you will no longer be obsessed with her.

Knowing who she is, how she repeatedly blamed you for what you were not guilty of, even for the fact you suffered from her cheating, it is a good thing that it is over.

There is a price to pay for a relationship with her, and that is to be The Guilty One every single day of your life with her. That is not a life worth living for me. Is it for you?

anita