I like the comment about attachment, but I framed it as ‘reminders’. I can not forget the ex because of the constant reminders that I have all around me. He has since left the state so it is way easier for him to move on (and also because he has a new GF, so obviously he is not thinking about me). I was so attached and even obsessed at the break up point, that he consumed by every thought for months. it has now been 8 months, and the thoughts and now spreading out, and I even laugh occasionally. I never knew how deep emotions can run and am truly astounded about the complexity and level of hurt that I have actually endured. It almost killed me. I have not gotten to the point that I have hope that I ever will love or feel again, but I can say that I survived 8 months. Evan is so right about acceptance. I know I have to accept my feelings for him, accept what he did to me and eventually forgive… but I am not ready yet. Certaintly moving towards those things but if I said I did I would be lying to myself. As long as I can recall, I am a bad forgiver,… I will accept, but not forget and forgive and this may be enough… I really don’t know. I find I have to actively try to not think about him and I keep busy, and when not busy, my mind wanders. Keep busy.