Dear loveleebabe:

If I give you a push in the direction of the exit door, so you leave this place where you live, and you are on the streets, or in a shelter, or elsewhere, and suffering, in great distress, will I be there to hold your hand? To take you in where it is warm and comfortable and loving?

Unfortunately, I will not. I will still be sitting here on my recliner, with the computer on my lap, typing.

This is why it is not responsible for me to push you, to pressure you to leave. Because I won’t be there with you, in person, once you leave, to help you.

I too lived in abusive homes as an adult. I left at times but ended in other abusive living situations. This is another reason why it won’t make sense for me to push you. If and when you leave, you have to heal and continue to heal so indeed to get to a way better state of mind and life. The journey is long.

Please do post anytime.

anita