Dear dreaming715:

Most couples who get married in fancy, beautiful wedding ceremonies and celebrations, with all family members in attendance, with flowers and bridesmaids and all accessories end up unhappy shortly after, remain married unhappily or divorced.

And when divorced, looking at those wedding albums is not fun for those whose weddings did go through but later divorced. It can also be embarrassing to see the grandparents so happy in those photos, thinking their granddaughter will live “happily ever after” with her new husband. Everyone smiling in those photos, a smile frozen it time. Smiles are gone and … those money and other gifts of the wedding get to be divided by the two.

So, really, those wedding photos you are avoiding, you have company avoiding those photos. You are in company of millions of women who are avoiding their wedding photos while being unhappily married and during and after their divorce.

So, here I am to rain on your failed fantasy of a fully accessorized wedding followed by living happily ever after. In fact I had a fancy wedding myself when I was 22. I was so young in that white wedding dress. All those photos and video of the wedding. I threw them all. I threw them all in the garbage, dreaming715. I placed them all (so many) in the garbage a couple of decades ago, “negatives” included, so I had and have no way to reproduce those photos.

anita