Hi,
I personally do not believe, that there is such a thing as not having time for a loved one (but I’m not a psychologist). Time might be perceived differently by people, and for instance, my boyfriend’s brother’s girlfriend wanted to spend almost every waking hour with him and got mad when he said he had other things to do or wanted some space. So they broke up. My former roommate met a nice guy, but they had some conflicting scheadules. Still, she didn’t even try. She said that if it’s not going to work out, then it wasn’t meant to be. But she didn’t want to make the time, although she was spending most of her evenings at home watching TV.
I met my boyfriend (currently 4 years together) when I was starting my masters. He lived in a different city and we saw each other only every two weeks. Yes, it sucked, but I never had a feeling that I don’t have time for him, or that he didn’t have time for me. I went to see him even when I had an essay to write, and I just spent most of my time at his place writing it, but he was there and we ate together and took breaks together. If he has something important to do, I understand and I never nag him to spend more time with me. Then again, that’s just my experience and I think it’s important to mention we are both introverts and we are happy just sitting beside each other with coffee and muffins and reading books.
Sorry for a long post. Just had my coffee and now I’m super energetic 😉
All best