Hi Anita,

My therapist also said something along the same lines – how for his mum to have had to resort to all this game playing to get what she wanted, then clearly I must have mattered a lot to him. And I see what she means – if he genuinely didn’t want to be with me, there would have been no need for all the drama and smokes and mirrors that followed.

What I don’t understand is this: I can see how the therapist did indeed convince him to believe what he wrote in that email, however, I still cannot see why he’d think it was a good idea to send me what he did. If anything, you’d soften the blow and say something that would hurt a little less – not essentially crush the other person by making out our whole relationship was a lie when clearly it wasn’t.

That’s the bit I struggle with – trying to figure out why on earth he’d think it was a good idea to send me that message when he could have perhaps said something else, or nothing at all – I did say in the end of my email to leave me be to get on with my life if I wasn’t right in what I was saying.