Hi Anita,

Sure – I was a really shy kid – whom tend to behave well and listen to my parents well. At 12 years old, my parents decided to put me in a boarding school in England which I refused to go, and I did escape the entry exam as a mean of voicing out that I don’t want to go. But it’s all for the best of me. I on the other hand went there feeling abandoned, during the teenage years I had several periods (at age 15 and 17 and 19) where I told my parents I wanted to return home (hong kong) but again, rejected (for better of me). So at that time I learned to be a people pleasing person to feel accepted and loved. Most of the time, I respect and follow what my parents want me to do.

But then I went into depression 5 years ago and I went to see a therapist to seek help. It was then I had a proper talk, well big conflict discussion with my parents about how things were and how I felt etc. It was also then I started to listen more to my heart. Right now my parents and I are in good terms – we have our boundaries in things, they know mine and I know theirs, but I don’t feel connected to them other than that.