Dear Katrina:

I answered your post three times yesterday. Each time my post disappeared. For more than 24 hours the website was broken. So here is a forth version of my response from yesterday:

Dear Katrina:
Thank you for your thoughtful reply to me. I am very impressed, again, by the mature and correct nature of your thinking and at 20- that is amazing to me.

Build on it- practice your thinking by learning about people’s motivations. For example your ex boyfriend’s motivation in telling you the ER story may have been to manipulate you through guilt to get back with him. If you were to continue a relationship with him, you could ask him questions, gently so to not elicit a defensive response, an untrue response, and listen. Learn and evaluate what kind of a relationship, if any, will be a Win for you.

Not relevant to this relationship as I agree, this one should remain in the past.

anita