Dear norg:

In that article (the link you provided) it reads: ” long-term pair-bonds share neural circuitry with parent–infant bonds…pair-bonds and parent–infant bonds share common biological substrates…Thus, adult attachment work has been built on the notion that pair-bonds are the adult instantiation of attachment in childhood”

Did you consider the possibility that you suffered an “insantiation of attachment in childhood”- that is you had an unavailable, unloving parent, one who maybe loved you a bit, conditionally, one you reached out to again and again but was rejected and felt great distress about being so alone, as a child… that the same anxiety you felt as a child is triggered presently when you feel attachment to a romantic figure?

anita