luk333

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s difficult enough to feel personally attacked in an environment where it’s difficult to remove yourself (vacation) and even more difficult when you don’t feel supported by those you love.

That being said, setting healthy boundaries for yourself IS showing compassion for others. We can’t be our best self when we’re in an environment where we’re feeling distant and defensive. Attempting to show compassion by putting yourself in a position to be hurt and build an even deeper resentment isn’t going to heal anyone’s soul. Sometimes we show compassion by loving and honoring other peoples spirit from afar. It sounds like that’s what you need to do in this situation. Set your boundaries with your partner and these friends. You don’t need to explain yourself to them. Simply tell your partner how you’re feeling and that you don’t feel comfortable sharing your time with these friends (said couple) any longer. Then don’t. There’s no reason to defend your decision or further explain it. Once you remove yourself from the situation try sending them positive healing thoughts through meditation or quiet reflection. Do this once a day for a week. Try to remember nothing anyone says has anything to do with you. It’s simply their perception of others and life based on the how the perceive their experiences.

When we begin to set boundaries for our own emotional health we attract people who are conducive to the boundaries we’ve set.

Good luck!