Allison,

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know this feeling all too well! I believe Inky is right, for me it brought up rejection and abandonment issues. It was so hard to get over the fact that my ex didn’t want to be with me. I started trying to manipulating him back into my life when I too didn’t even want him. I just couldn’t handle that he didn’t want me!

The important thing for me to remember, so I could move on, was I was good enough. It just wasn’t the man who was right for me. It has nothing to do with how “good enough” you are. It’s simply not the person you were meant to be with. Is a McNugget not good enough because they don’t fit in at Burger King? Nope, it’s just not the right fit.

Try and remember you’re not meant for better things, just different things. He’s not meant for a “better” woman, just a different one. We don’t all get to have the experiences we want in life. All experiences just weren’t meant for us, just like all people aren’t meant for us.

It took a while and I had to remind myself constantly that just because my ex didn’t want to be with me anymore doesn’t mean I wasn’t good enough for him. I’m just not right for him and he’s allowed to make that choice. Today I’m grateful he did because it opened me up to learn to love me again and follow my heart, which ended up bringing me an amazing man who WAS meant for me. Who knows how long I would have stayed in the relationship out of complacency.

When I follow my heart the things that are attracted to my heart find me…I don’t have to do any chasing or clinging to fear of rejection.

Try some self-love practices, there are tons of resources out there!