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Wow this story sounds very familiar.
I too have just had a whirlwind romance with an older, extremely successful, wonderful man with very complicated personal life, (divorced with a six year old daughter who lives a 5 hour train journey away and he sees once a week, travelling back and forth).
I met him when I was just out of a relationship and he made me feel like a princess, treating me like no one else has and making me feel incredibly special. We had a very strong physical connection as well as an emotional connection and things seemed perfect for a while.
As my feelings for him developed I felt scared about making myself vulnerable when I didn’t know exactly how he felt.
Around 3 months in I could feel myself falling in love with him and began feeling anxious about letting my heart be vulnerable again but decided to trust the universe and let myself fall completely.
At around the same time I would feel his walls go up and he gradually began to make me feel less special and adored.
Instead of the initial feeling of euphoria I spent my days feeling up and down like a yo yo – sometimes feelings an intense connection and at others feeling like a wall was up for him, emotionally which made me anxious.
He never spoke about the future in terms of ‘us’ and may completely relocate in December but has no idea where he will live. I eventually asked the questions I’d been scared to ask – which is ‘am I part of his plan wherever he ends up?’
We’ve been together 5 months and he said he didn’t know yet and could we see nearer the time.
I made the difficult decision to say that this wasn’t good enough for me and that I wanted someone who was so bowled over by my awesomeness that they make me part of the plan. This was on Sunday and although I know it was the right decision I’m devastated that it’s ended.
I’m comforting myself with loyal friends and hoping that the universe will guide me in the next step – whether that be him coming back and realising he’s made a mistake or on my own and onto better things. It’s very hard.