Hi Inky,

I have asked myself that question, whether he’s really only after money. It’s so hard to tell. Either I’m blind or he’s covering up very well. He keeps telling me how much he loves me, but how can someone who claims to love me shout at me and patronise me whenever he feels like.

There have been many times when he went shopping and his card was blocked and I had to pay for him. Not once has he ever offered to pay me back.

I don’t mind helping a loved one out with money, but if in return all I get is disrespect and no appreciation, it’s not something I can understand.

I can ‘ghost’ him – I now live on the other side of the world and I’ve blocked him on all possible forms of communication. His only way is through email which he has used to try to get back with me. However, this time he hasn’t tried to get back with me.

I’m just heartbroken. It’s like he was two completely different people when he was calm and when he lost his temper.