Dead Anita:

Confusion is part of being lost…

Yes, I think I will write it out more clearly my problems in that way, I myself can understand.

My problems in this relationship are:

1. We are friends with benefits, but we don’t act like it. We don’t text each other only when we want sex, but instead we talk to each other every day from dawn to dusk and we say the sweetest things to each other. He even said that, he would like to be in this type of relationship for a long time to come.

2. I have told him early on in the relationship that I like him, and would like to spend some time away, or minimize the amount of time we talk to each other. He didn’t want and got upset.

3. I tried to set up normal rules for friends with benefits for when we have sex, he thought it would limit our enjoyment of being with each other.. So I opened up.

4. Maybe its just me, but on a couple occasions, he mentions his ex’s and how he is still very much attached to them, and if he could go back with his recent ex, he would in a heart beat because she was perfect. <- His actual words. Which of course hurts me, although I didn’t say anything and just agreed. He also isn’t in contact with them.

5. I’m okay with not going on dates with him and only seeing him for sex, but I hate how he keeps pushing me away to have dates with other men( I do go on dates though with other men), but i am required to tell him and he gets upset afterwards and doesn’t want anything to do with them. I(Now this problem took place 2 days ago. We haven’t really been on each others good side.. We still talk, but its very short and angry, but I try to release that, and send him things to make him smile. Although when he does end up smiling, he says its because of something else. ) I just want to tell him that I don’t want to see other men, but… I’m scared of his reaction because he is pushing me to go to them.

6. I don’t understand his reactions to things.

I’m even more lost than I was before and it kinda scares me because, although I enjoy what we have, it does seem like its becoming into a relationship