Dear ljs85:

Reads to me that your on again off again boyfriend is repeating his childhood with you, repeating a very unresolved issue of his childhood with you. When he blocks you, he is expressing his anger at the parent that hurt him. When he reconnects, he is reaching out to the parent that he still needs. You, the individual that you are, are invisible in his dynamic. It is not about you, so no wonder you feel that to be with him you have to have no feelings, no opinions, no…self. There is no place for YOU in this relationship.

How to move on, you ask- I think the answer is to move on to a life where YOU have a place, where who you are matters, where you are not a symbol in someone else’s unresolved issue.

What do you think?

anita