Dear Ravi:

I like the development of your thinking here. Good job, I say.

Your motivation: “to focus on her situation and understand it well.”

I like it and that would be enough of a motivation at this point. The rest of the motivation should be put away for now because if she shares with you her feelings throughout this ordeal, then based on what she shares, then… develop the rest of your motivation. Otherwise it can be manipulative on your part, to decide what you will be doing next. It is TOO IMPORTANT to find out her state of mind and affairs, too important to ignore by going solo with further motivations and plans.

If you are satisfied with that motivation (“to focus on her situation and understand it well.”) then you are almost ready to compose a message, I think.

But there is one more thing: do you know if the very fact that you will be sending Jerry a message, if that will be harming her? I wonder if she is at the state where she automatically reacts with dread to the mention of you or to receiving a message from you. I hope not. And I don’t know if you do. Have any thoughts about it? I am asking this because I am concerned for her well being.

anita