Dear Ravi:

You added to my version: “and I am nobody to consider myself above the same.”- I strongly dislike you writing that you are a nobody and I don’t care about the context of writing it. I am strongly against it!

You also added: “. In that context” and I disagree it is a good idea because it takes away from you taking responsibility and it is most important that you take responsibility for having done wrong. You already specified what it is you did. “in that context” is getting close to your pattern of being argumentative. I don’t want you even close to argumentative. This addition takes away from your chances of her answering you.

You added: ” I admit I lost my temper over petty issues, behaved badly with you, even stopped talking. I took your love and respect, your forgiveness and the special position you gave to me, for granted…” I don’t like this either, it takes away from the most important part of the message AND your temper was not the cause of the cutting of communication anyway! Not that you should behave abusively with her- never should you do that- only this topic is not right in this message.

You added: “I have been told to remain happy with all the others who call me brother. But you know better than me that no relation can ever take the place of another. And nobody can ever take your place in my life either, Jerry”- I am strongly against this addition as well. It is again, Ravi going weird with exaggerations. yes, Ravi, exaggerations. You can talk about nobody ever taking her place in your life etc.. once you show her that you can practice THE BASICS of LOVE. Stick to the basics, the foundation of a building, metaphorically, before you plan on fancy, flashy windows at the top.

In other words, I like my version and none of your additions (this is why I didn’t include them in my version to start with).

Will you let me know the exact version you intend to send her BEFORE you send it to her?

anita