Hey gg4tp,

There is a reason why they say long-distances are hard – here is my side of the story after a number of long long-distances – you gotta have more faith in your partner’s intentions. Sometimes their style of communication will not be in sync with yours and neither will their energy levels – you cant verify this 24×7 and seek explanations all the time. Sometimes you have to let go of rationalizing and understand what is it that you are feeling inside when the grey areas start –

1) Do you feel he doesnt care about you?
2) Do you feel he sees no future with you?
3) Do you feel that this man doesnt love you and had verbally, physically abused you?

Please examine the stories you tell yourself to fill up the communication gaps that inevitably occur

Some people arent good at communication – i understand thats all you have in long-distance at first appearance but there is also something called trust and commitment – you gotta trust that your partner will come back to you. He bothers to tell you why he vanished, he bothers to be in touch though thats not his usual way, he cares even if it isnt the way you are used to. You gotta find a middle way around this – you spent 2 years together, surely that was worth something, right? Dont let these doubts ruin the relationship. Dont break his heart and yours like this.