Dear Nan:

Welcome back! He didn’t ask you such questions for many years, is that so? You are preparing to the possibility he suddenly does ask you that…? Well, you want the cruise to be peaceful, this is your plan, so if he asks you these kinds of questions in front of others, tell him with a smile (since you will be in the habit of wearing a smile), that you will discuss this with him in private.

Then if he brings it up in private (if), then tell him you will talk about it with him at home, after the cruise.

You titled your new thread “The cliff to jump, is coming up soon”- I am thinking you have been on a fall for a long time now, only pretending you are on solid ground. Pretending, like that smile you plan on having during the cruise.

It is like going to the dentist knowing it is going to hurt, so you postpone it and postpone.. anxious and afraid the whole time, having nightmares, preparing but … not being able to do it. You finally, after 10 years of needing to and 2 years of intense anxiety, you finally go to the dentist- and my goodness, it hurt just a little, way less than you thought and you are out of the dentist’s office pain free with a beautiful, authentic smile!

anita