Bartlomiej,

As difficult as this will be while you are sad about this woman, it’s vital you spend all your energy into getting that green card.

If you are here in America, while the immigration process is not easy, there are resources that can help you through the citizenship process without forcing anyone to marry. The first thing you need to do is *ask for help from a qualified, ethical professional/expert in immigration*. There will be a lot forms, fees, and different agencies you will need to deal with so it will get a little daunting. Having someone who knows the procedure will be invaluable.

Ideally you would hire a lawyer who specializes in this, but it sounds like your finances are tight. Go to a local library and ask the librarian to help you find free/low cost resources/groups that can assist. Community colleges and religious organizations are also a good place to start. Also, see if there are groups in your community of people from your native country – they might be able to help to and would also understand what you are going through.

This is going to be very *tough love* here, and I don’t mean to frighten you, but the longer you wait the harder this will be and the more legal risk you put yourself in. Please don’t add the risk of deportation or putting your immigration in jeopardy to your your grief over your breakup.