Dear Pipercub:

What a story….

My first significant thought at the beginning of your post is about most everyone disliking the woman at work, referring to her as “The Dummy”- it is this kind of disrespect and ganging up against someone that produces sickness. My empathy for your best-friend-turned-boyfriend’s other girlfriend for having been bullied at the workplace.

My other thoughts: I suppose his past girlfriends, including the latest were correct all along when they felt threatened by your relationship with him. Your story strengthens in my mind that a friendship of a man with a woman while being in a physical relationship with another is a valid concern to the latter.

As to your question if you and him ruined your best friendship status: only future claims that there hasn’t been and couldn’t be a physical relationship between the two of you. Otherwise, potentially, there could be any kind of relationship between the two of you.

Hope you post again with your thoughts and new developments. Your story is definitely interesting.

anita