Good idea…so obvious, too! Thank you for being sensible. A couple of tinybuddha blog posts and a few YouTube talks helped me find the right tone. I kept it brief as you suggested, and focused my message on how I feel instead of what I need from her. I’ve learned, as Chris stated, that these folks twist our words to say what we never said nor meant. It’s more difficult to argue a person’s feelings, so that’s where I stayed. Is “family togetherness” an illusion created in Victorian times? I ask that because everything else that’s nutty comes from novels and paintings from those times….