Grundfield,

Looks like you’ve gotten some solid advice from everyone, but I would like to throw in one last thing – don’t forget about yourself in all of this. Yes, it is absolutely critical you not pressure her, listen, etc., but remember *you are also in this marriage*. It sounds like you’re doing a good job of vocalizing your fears to her, which is really important, but your work doesn’t stop there. Since you’re having to walk that fine of line of giving her space *and* honoring your own feelings, it’s critical you reach out to friends and family to vent to and lean on for support. I would also maybe consider seeking out a therapist for yourself who’s dealt with individuals going through separations. They’ll give you the emotional and communication tools you’ll need to deal with this very difficult situation.

Best of luck!