Thank you so much again, Anita. 🙂 I actually just have 2 more questions…(sorry, this is such a messy family situation!). My friend is pretty much ready to cut off his sister. He knows that she is very manipulative, and whenever he has confronted her about things, she initially freaks out, but then a week later she sends a super sweet email and he feels guilty for wanting to cut her off. But for the past few weeks, he hasn’t spoken with her, and things seemed to have calmed down. Then 3 days ago, she sent this super long and sweet email to him, so he started feeling bad about everything again. He then asked me to look at her Instagram account (she has a public profile) because he doesn’t have an account, to see if she’s been telling the truth about where she is and what she’s doing. I basically found loads of evidence that she has been lying to him again about what she’s been up to. I told him, and he said that he is glad that I told him, but obviously he is hurt and a bit angry. I feel bad that I had to give him bad news and that he is hurting because of it. Was I wrong to tell him this?

He was also asking me if I think that he should have no more contact with her. He is thinking of blocking her calls and emails because he can’t fall apart whenever she sends a sweet (but manipulative) email. I am torn because 1) she is really tearing him apart so I don’t want him to continue talking with her, but 2) I don’t ever want to advocate completely cutting someone off. Any thoughts about how to answer this question?

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