Hey CJ,

You’re terrified he’s going to leave and inevitably to make him stay, you end up coming on too strong, right? you guys are out of the honeymoon phase – its time you accept him as he has accepted your quirks too. You gotta trust him and the relationship more. Fine things didnt work out in the past with others but he isnt the other guys – he’s your guy and you gotta believe in the love you have more. You dont have to have sex all the time, you dont need to stick to each other like glue to prove the love is there – he cares about you a lot and even you know that. His commitment is right in front of you but you need to see it, acknowledge and stop overthinking after a point.

I dont have any great advice except to say that get more involved with your life outside of the work that you do at home – some distance in a relationship is healthy, isnt it? Take a class, join a gym, volunteer, make new friends. Have your own life too – inner or outer whichever you like. I am not gonna ask you to play games – just gonna say find balance in your own way.

Take care,
Nina