Dear Kitty:

Congratulations for ending the affair with the married man. And continuing to have that relationship in the past regardless of your emotional attachment to him.

Emotional attachment is a strong emotion. I remember as a child when I was separated from my mother, on a visit to an aunt. I felt I couldn’t breathe without my mother. I felt sick. The aunt must have noticed my distress and sent me to my mother as soon as possible, a couple of hours away.

It is the same emotional attachment, whether you feel it to a parent, a boyfriend, a pet. When they are gone from your life, it hurts. You long for that person.

It is an emotion you can endure, and you will survive it. Understand its nature and relax into it the best you can. Post again anytime.

anita

* Dear farrel: Reads like you are in distress. If you’d like my/ others’ (other than the original poster of this thread) responses to you, please start your own thread: click FORUMS, choose a CATEGORY (relationships), click that, go down the page and type there. See you there.