Dear xoxoxo:

It is very difficult when you are emotionally attached to an unhealthy man who is abusive. You know you should stay away but your desire is to reconnect with him. It is like being attached to anything that is bad for you, from drugs to gambling to… cake and more cake.

This is why it is a good idea that you read your diary, to remind yourself that he was, unfortunately, abusive and that if you go back to him, you will again be abused. It is good that you remind yourself of the abuse and the misery you suffered, so that you will not get back with him for more suffering.

And post here when you need a reminder that your desire to be with him again should not be accommodated, for your own good.

Regarding trusting other men in the future, before you trust another man, it is very important to get to know him first, as a friend. So make a friend first, before getting emotionally invested, evaluate the future man to determine IF he is trustworthy. And trust him only if he is indeed trustworthy!

Take care of yourself—

anita