I truly believe that everyone we meet serves a purpose in our life. I met a girl once that I fell in love with. We had a short relationship but it’s not long before she found another. It was painful, sure. I didn’t realize it at the time but this experience was necessary for me. The pain of this break up encouraged me to go on adventures, travel to unknown places, meet strange people, try out strange foods, learn new skills. I wouldn’t have known I love to make things out of wood and garden if it wasn’t for my break up haha. Looking back now, I’m happy at the way things turned out. I wouldn’t change a thing.

For you, I think this person is there to teach you a lesson on strength and courage. From the description, he sounds like a manipulative person, a functional sociopath, only saying things his target wants to hear in order for them to like him. It seems as though it’s working on you. But it’s not your fault, or his. Sociopathic behaviors are like storms, they just happen. So, my advice is to use this situation to beef up your fortress (Strength and Courage) to wither the storm. Have the strength to see through his illusions and the courage to live a life without this person.

Good luck!