Hi Hikergal74,

I’m so sorry you are still in pain and believe me I know the feeling. I’m also in the same situation. Instead of getting better ‘with time’ I feel worse after 3 months of no contact. We broken up since Feb. He reached out in May to which I asked that he not contact me for a long time so we could both heal and move on. We had a short and very intense love affair. We live in different countries and it’s not ideal to carry on a relationship so we reluctantly we ended it. He wanted to stay in contact but I didn’t want to because I didn’t want to reopen the wounds every few weeks. I fell in love with him and what he was willing to offer was not enough. We talked for hours to give each other the closure we needed before saying good bye. Afterward I sent him a letter thanking him and told him he could reach out once in a while if he wanted to. I haven’t heard from him and I’ve not reached out. We’re not connected by social media so it makes the situation a bit easier. I miss him a lot and still think of him daily. He’s no longer the first thing on my mind in the morning. Sometimes I have a strong urge to contact him but at the end of the day, practicality rules. I wonder when this punishment will end. I thought I had closure. No one matter how a relationship ended – amicable or not, break up stinks.