Hi HikerGal74,

I did this exactly as per what you wrote I agree with you that I let this go too quickly, however what is one supposed to do when someone is saying to you “I don’t want to be in this any more I am unhappy.”

Though it was not for a relationship issue but for a professional issue. I got the job lay off news and then I just asked one question “What is the criteria that the company is considering to downsize people?”
After that I said “Go ahead and do the exit formalities”

That was my last day at the job.

Just like you I was fine for the initial few days and then thoughts/emotions started to creep up my mind…like “I was performing well, so why did I not fight back”, I also had rage and resentment about my superiors who may have directly or indirectly been involved in my lay off. But then I thought there is no point in thinking about all these thoughts as they are just a waste of time and energy.

It is not that easy to simply stop thinking about something unpleasant happened. It has to happen by itself naturally through some practical technique. It has to be healed. It has to be released. Of course, it is said that time is the best healer/solution, but the past can run into our body’s energetic system for several years. We will just be kicking ourselves or beating ourselves up all the time asking the mind for a solution to get rid of this unpleasant past. The mind does not have an answer. It is like looking for something in an empty drawer of the table, but then finding nothing there.

How about looking for a remedy coming straight from Mother Nature for problems exactly like this?

I still cry 1-2x’s a week…if I am honest with myself, but lately I am really realizing I miss him, and it makes me so sad
when I am alone at night he is never far from my thoughts-I worry that I still have this small sliver of hope we will reconnect one day.

Take a look at these wonderful resources on Bach remedies and I’m sure you will relate it to your situation.

Based on your situation it looks like you will need WALNUT and / or HONEYSUCKLE

1) WALNUT

Link 1 :http://mudraguide.com/bach-flower-remedies-walnut-and-change.html
Snippet: Walnut is a great remedy that helps one to ‘move on’ without being tied to the old. It can very often sever the ties that bind you to an old love, old hurt or old anger so it has often been called the ‘link breaker’. It can also free a person who is being dominated by someone to become strong and move out as well as cutting oneself loose from an old and hopeless infatuation.

It helps one accept and move on instead of wallowing in the past.

Link 2 : http://www.bachflower.org/walnut.htm

2) HONEYSUCKLE

Link 1: http://mudraguide.com/bach-flower-remedies-honeysuckle-and-moping.html
Link 2: http://www.bachflower.org/honeysuckle.htm

I request you to patiently take time out to read about the above two remedies in its entirety.
Since you are best aware of your situation and your state of mind, only you will be able to choose the right remedy (or combination of remedies).

Don’t worry about their availability..they are easily available. And they are nature’s gift to mankind….coming straight from the DIVINE.
The DIVINE may well be answering to your problems here and wants you to come out of the past and move on to a fresh new life that you have desired.